[Book Summary] The power of full engagement By Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz.

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We live in digital time. When our pace is rushed and relentless, most of us are just trying to do the best that we can. As a result, we celebrate breadth rather than depth, quick reaction more than considered reflection. We survive on too little sleep, wolf down fast foods on the run, and become short-tempered and easily distracted. Consequently, our lives are out of control and we don’t have enough energy to meet the relentless demand in a long run.

“The power of full engagement” is a practical approach to managing our energy for higher performance and better lives.

Managing energy, not time, is the key to enduring high performance as well as to health, happiness, and life balance.

 In this book, two authors have indicated 4 Principles to manage energy for full engagement.

Principle 1: Full engagement requires drawing on four separate but related sources of energy: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.

  • Physical capacity is defined by quantity of energy.
  • Emotional capacity is defined by quality of energy.
  • Mental capacity is defined by focus of energy.
  • Spiritual capacity is defined by force of energy.

In particular,

  • The quantity of available energy is measured in terms of volume (low to high).
  • The quality of available energy is measured in terms of unpleasant (negative) to pleasant (positive).
  • The focus of available energy is measured in terms of broad to narrow and external to internal.
  • The force of available energy is measured in terms of self to others, external to internal and negative to positive.

Principle 2: Because energy diminishes both with overuse and with underuse, we must balance energy expenditure with intermittent energy renewal.

Principle 3: To build capacity we must push beyond our normal limits, training in the same systematic way that elite athletes do.

We grow at all levels by expending energy beyond our normal limits and then recovering.

Principle 4: Positive energy rituals—highly specific routines for managing energy—are the key to full engagement and sustained high performance.

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  1. Physical Energy

In reality, physical energy is the fundamental source of fuel. It affects our ability to manage our emotions, sustain concentration, and even maintain our commitment to whatever mission we are on.

We can manage our physical energy through these key factors: breathing, eating, sleeping, and exercise.

Here are some suggestions you can take into consideration for a better health:

  • Go to bed early and wake up early
  • Go to sleep and wake up consistently at the same times
  • Eat breakfast every day
  • Eat a balanced, healthy diet
  • Drink about 2 litters of water daily
  • Take breaks every ninety minutes during work
  • Do exercise regularly

*Don’t take your health for granted because you can’t do anything without having a good health. Take care of yourself 😉

     2. Emotional Energy

Physical energy is the raw fuel for igniting our emotional skills and talents. In order to perform at our best we must access pleasant and positive emotions: enjoyment, challenge, adventure and opportunity.

In practical terms, the key “muscles” or competencies that fuel positive emotion are self-confidence, self-control, social skills, and empathy. Smaller, supportive “muscles” include patience, openness, trust and enjoyment.

  1. Mental Energy

Just as physical energy is the fundamental fuel for emotional competencies, so it is the fuel for mental skills.

The key supportive muscles that fuel optimal mental energy include mental preparation, visualization, positive self-talk, effective time management, and creativity.

  1. Spiritual Energy

The quantity of energy we have to spend at any given moment is a reflection of our physical capacity. Our motivation to spend what we have is largely a spiritual issue. Fundamentally, spiritual energy is a unique force for action in all dimensions of our lives. It is the most powerful source of our motivation, perseverance and direction. We define “spiritual” not in the religious sense, but rather in more simple and elemental terms: the connection to a deeply held set of values and to a purpose beyond our self-interest. The key muscle that fuels spiritual energy is character—the courage and conviction to live by our values, even when doing so requires personal sacrifice and hardship. Supportive spiritual muscles include passion, commitment, integrity and honesty.

“If growth and development take place from the bottom up—from physical to emotional to mental to spiritual—change is powered from the top down. The most compelling source of purpose is spiritual, the energy derived from connecting to deeply held values and a purpose beyond one’s self-interest. Purpose creates a destination. It drives full engagement by prompting our desire to invest focused energy in a particular activity or goal. We become fully engaged only when we care deeply, when we feel that what we are doing really matters. Purpose is what lights us up, floats our boats, and feeds our souls.”

In summary, managing energy is a key to high performance and personal renewal. In order to manage our energy effectively, we have to take four separated but related sources of energy into consideration: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. At all levels, we grow by expending beyond our normal limits and then recovery. Keep expenditure and renewal in balance.

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Rise and Shine: 9 things I want to do in the morning :)

  1. Wake up early

“Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise”. Benjamin Franklin

Waking up early in the morning is not an easy thing for me but it’s worth making an effort to build that new habit. I am a kind of person who needs some time to prepare for the day ahead rather than rushing myself to go to work because of waking up late. Waking up about 2 hour earlier before going to work enables me to have more time to do some essential things such as doing exercise, meditation, writing gratitude journal or having breakfast. And therefore, it makes me feel ready for the challenges during the day ahead.

2. Drink a glass of water

Well, you may know that water is very important for your body because about 70% of the body is made up of water. Water plays a key role in making sure that your body is functioning correctly. Drink a glass of water right after waking up is a way to flush your bowels and remove toxins from the body. Besides, water is essential for the fluid balance in your body. When you drink water on an empty stomach, it will boost your immune system, and therefore, it helps you prevent from diseases and have a healthier life.

3. Meditation

Mediation is a means of transforming the mind, and morning is the good time to do it. Mediation practices develop concentration, knowledge of self, and a calm seeing of the true nature of things. Meditation enables us to listen to our inner voice and have a deeper understanding of our inner self. In addition, clearing the mind through 10-15 minute mediation in the morning gives you a sense of inner peace and makes the rest of your day more productive.

4. Be thankful

In North America, people have a day to express their gratitude- Thanksgiving Day. I don’t know if the other countries have the same day, but I do believe this: every day can be a magical day if we practice and express our gratitude for everything happening in our life. Studies have shown that gratitude makes us happier, reduces materialism, enhances spiritualism, and increases our self-esteem.

5. Visualize

Visualization is a simple but powerful practice. When you close your eyes and visualize how you want your day to unfold, it will give you directions as you go through your day. One interesting thing about the mind is that it finds difficult to distinguish between imagination and reality. When you visualize your goals, it will give the same feelings as you’ve already completed them. Thus, it will enhance motivation and positive thoughts to help you accomplish your goals in the real life. Also, visualization allows you to reduce all the negative emotion, and instead, pay more attention on the things you want. The more detailed your visualization, the closer your goals will appear to you.

6. Do exercise

I think many of us know the benefits of working out regularly, especially in the morning, but just a few people can get out of their beds and go out to do exercise. Doing exercise regularly helps to ensure a healthy body and healthy brain. Moreover, many studies suggests that working out can help the body release dopamine, which is a chemical playing a key role in happiness. So? Pick up your running shoes or yoga mats and start your day with doing exercise.

7. Write a to-do-list

By jotting down all the things needed get done throughout the day, it reminds you the most important things and also helps you to focus your time and energy on your priorities. Besides, using a to-do-list enables you to track your progress and mark off the tasks you have completed. At the end of the day, when you look at your list, it will give you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.

8. Listen to some motivational songs

Listening to some inspirational songs or videos is one of the best ways to improve your mood and helps you be ready for the challenges of the day.

9. Have a good breakfast

The old saying: “Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a pauper.” Breakfast provides the body and the brain with fuel after a long night of sleeping. Having a good breakfast provides you enough energy to get started and keep you functioning till lunch.

Make each day your masterpiece 😀

My Money Rules

Money is a topic that we can discuss for weeks and weeks.

Although some people have bad beliefs about money, we can’t deny its importance in life.

We need money for the basic needs such as food, water, shelter, or clothes.

Money also helps us to do whatever we want to do or go wherever we want to go.

And sometimes we can use money to help others to have better lives.

Some people might say something like money is the root of evil. I don’t think so.

I believe that money itself is really good, but the way people make it or use it can make money become a bad thing.

For me, no matter how much money I want to make and by which way, I have to make sure:

  1. Make money with integrity
  2. Keep my life balanced

My life comprises of many categories such as Health, Career, Money, Relationship, Personal Development, and Contribution. Money is important, but it is just a part of my life. Hence, I have to manage my time and energy to keep my life balanced.

If we don’t use money, then money will definitely use us. Thus, it’s important to learn how to manage money effectively. Mastering the game of money is not an easy thing, but it will be funny, I believe.

Here are some money rules that I have learnt and want to apply in my life

  1. Develop a positive mind set about money

 Like everything else, financial success starts in mind. Firstly, you have to decide what you want, for example, how much money you want to earn, and by when you want to have it. Next, you have to believe that you can achieve it. And then, focus on it by thinking and visualizing it as if it were already yours. More importantly, you have to be willing to pay the price in order to get it, with self-discipline and commitment for a long time.

In addition, when you set financial goals, make everything as clear as possible.

Don’t set your goals like I want to be rich or I want to earn more or save more next year. What does rich mean? How much is “more”? And next year, when will be the exact time of next year? The general goals won’t lead you anywhere. So make everything clear.

For instance:

I will have a net worth of $………….by the year………

I will earn $………this year.

I will save & invest $…………..this month

In addition, use gratitude to attract more money in your life. When you feel thankful for the money you have, the money in your life can magically increase.

I often use the Magic check to order the Universe by writing down how much I want to have and by when I want to have it. And whenever the money coming to me, I feel grateful for it and say Thank you ❤

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If you want to practice by this way, you can download the Magic Check and write down the amount of money you want to have and the exact time you want to have it. And then, try to work hard and seize any chances you got in life to make it happen. More importantly, feel thankful for all the money that you have an opportunity to make. And money is coming to you soonnnn =))

*For more information about the Magic Check, read the Magic book by Rhonda Byrne.

2.  Pay yourself first

 Pay yourself first

 Pay yourself first means before you pay your bills, before you want to buy something, or before you want to do something, set aside a certain portion of your income to savings account monthly.

No matter how much money I earn each month, I pay myself first. I take 10% of my income and put it into my savings account and then use the power of compound interest.

For example, if you invest $1,000 at a 10% rate of interest, you will earn $100 in the interest and by the end of that year, you will have $1,100 in total. Then, if you leave both the original investment and the earned interest, you will have 10% interest of $1,100 the next year. And year after year, it will become a huge amount of money. The sooner you start savings, the longer you have for the compound interest.

Make savings and investing a priority

When you make savings and investing a priority and live on the rest, it will do two things:

  • It will force you to start building your fortune and become financial freedom soon.
  • If you want do spend more, it will force you to earn more to afford it.

Some people might say the amount of money I earn each month is just enough for the basic needs, how can I have money for savings and investing?

The truth is you don’t need to wait until you have some extra money to save. Now is the time. And make it become a habit. When you commit to pay yourself first, and live on the rest, you will try to find the way to earn more.

If you have earned the same amount of money for years, and still struggle with the basic needs, there might be some problems, so:

  • Check out your spending.
  • Think about the way to earn more such as working harder, trying to improve yourself everyday, or trying to add more value to the marketplace.

“We get paid for bringing value to the marketplace. It takes time,… but we get paid for the value, not the time.” Jim Rohn.

Try to work harder & smarter. Hard work pays off.

  1. Master the spending game

 “Too many people spend money that haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” Will Rogers.

For me, besides the basic needs, I prefer to spend my money on things that make me feel happy in a suitable way.

-Spend money on experience rather than things, for example, on travelling.

-Spend money on personal development such as books, workshop, or learning something new.

-Spend money on improving Health

  1. To spend more, first make more

 There are two ways to end up with more money, either spending less money on the other things or making more money. Personally, I prefer making more money to saving more money because I don’t want to see myself being denied the things I want in life, lol.

In order to make more money, you first have to decide how much money you want to make more, and by when you want to get it. In addition, if you want to make more money, try to become more valuable to your company, your customers, and your society.

  1. Give more to get more

Share your wealth. Take from 5-10% of your income to help others. When your share your wealth, it doesn’t make you poorer, but it can help others overcome the difficulties ;).

And the more you give, the more you receive.

 

 

[Book Summary] Coach Wooden: The 7 principles that shaped his life and will change yours By Pat Williams & James Denney

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John Wooden was a basketball coach at UCLA. When he finished his eighth grade, his father gave him a handwritten card and said: “Son, try to live up to this.” On the card, his dad had written 7 simple but profound life principles. These principles were the key of Coach Wooden ’s greatness. He actually lived out these 7 principles and has inspired many people in his entire life.

Here are 7 principles that shaped Coach Wooden ‘s life and maybe will change yours:

  1. Be true to yourself
  2. Help others
  3. Make each day your masterpiece
  4. Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible
  5. Make friendship a fine art
  6. Build a shelter against a rainy day by the life you live
  7. Pray for guidance and counsel, and give thanks for your blessings each day

Be true to yourself

“It’s a command to be faithful to your highest self, to your values, your honor, your integrity, the reputation you wish to maintain. Be faithful to your commitment to be a person of character, courage, commitment, devotion, perseverance, and diligence. Refuse to compromise yourself. Never sacrifice your principles. Refuse to betray your values. If you remain true to be the best that is within you, you will never be false or disloyal to any other person.” Coach Wooden

Be the best you can be

“Don’t try to be better than somebody else, but never ease trying to be the best you can be. You can control over that. The other you don’t.”

“To be the best, you’ve got to be self-disciplined and self-controlled. If you are not maintaining self-controlled, then you are not being true to yourself. You are letting your circumstances or your emotions or the actions of other people control you. To be true to yourself, you have to be in control of yourself. If you can’t control yourself, others will do it for you. And if you are not controlling yourself, you’re not helping the team.”

If you are true to yourself, you must invest in development and improvement of your own character. If you take time to develop your character, when the tests of life come, you’ll do it right.

In addition, to be true to yourself, you have to be true to your potential and your principles.

Be true to yourself-to your highest self, your values, your character, your honor, and your integrity. Be true to yourself, and you’ll never be false to anyone else.

Help others

 “You can’t have a perfect day without helping others with no thoughts of getting something in return.” Coach Wooden

Coach Wooden viewed helping others as his life’s calling. He believed he was born to influence and serve young people. That was his life purpose and he tried to fulfill his calling every single day.

Givers and Takers

 Success is not about what you’ve done or accomplished for yourself. It’s about what you’ve done for others. And as Danny Thomas said: “There are two kinds of people in this world: Givers and Takers. The takers may eat better but the givers sleep better.”

 The Dirty Shoulders Principle

 “All great people are having dirty shoulders. People of true greatness are always lifting others up and letting them stand tall on their own shoulders. They don’t care who get the credit. They don’t mind if their own shoulders get dirty. They just want to lift other people up.” Gil McGregor

Make each day your masterpiece

Life is too short and I believe that each person coming to the Earth has his/her own purpose and mission in life. We are the painters of our lives, and each day we live, we can choose to make a masterpiece.

Devote a portion of each day to preparation

For whatever you want to do in life, spend some time to prepare. As Benjamin Franklin once said: “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”

Besides, Coach usually encouraged his players to be quick, but don’t hurry.

He explained that: “You are more prone to make mistakes when you rush things. You must never allow yourself to be panicked or stampeded into going faster than your own tempo, but your tempo must be quick, or you won’t get things done. I always found that quickness comes from preparation. If you have practiced and prepared well, quickness comes naturally.”

Set goals to make each day your masterpiece

 “All you can control is today. Yesterday is gone, and the future has not arrived yet. When you make the most of today, tomorrow will automatically be better.” Coach Wooden

You never know the next day will bring, so make today the best it can be. By focusing on excellence from the moment you wake up in the morning till you go to bed at night, you will find that every day of your life is an experience of excellence and you will feel truly fulfilled and meaningful. That is a day of masterpiece.

Make each day your masterpiece by living wisely, living effectively, living joyfully, and living to invest each day of your life in the people around you.

Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible

Bill Bennett learnt from Coach Wooden: “Life is about continuous learning. If you’re not learning, you’re not living. If you’re wasting your learning opportunities, you’re wasting your life. Reading is one of the most learning-intensive activities you’ll ever do. It doesn’t matter if you’re reading poetry or a great novel or a Shakespeare play or a book of history or biography-it’s going to be a learning experience. It’s going to enrich you and make you wiser.”

Here are some tips that help you become a more effective reader

  • Schedule a daily reading time, preferably an hour a day or more
  • Be a discriminating reader
  • Keep books handy wherever you are
  • Don’t just read books, interact with them
  • Furnish your home with good books
  • Set aside a portion of your vacation time for a reading sabbatical
  • Share your reading experiences with other enthusiastic readers
  • Use what you learn
  • Widen your reading horizons
  • Encourage reading in others, especially the young

Make friendship a fine art

“Don’t take friendship for granted. Friendship is giving and sharing of yourself… Someone is not a good friend because he/she does good things for you all the time. It’s friendship when you do good things for each other. It’s showing concern and consideration… The first and most important step in friendship is to be a friend.” Coach Wooden.

As Swen Nater once said: “Friendship is a matter of give-and-take. If you only give or only take, the relationship become unbalanced and out of bounds. The fine art of friendship is not a one-way street. Good friends know how to go through tough times together. They know how to give and how to receive.”

Besides, good friends are good listeners. When you need them, they are always there for you to listen to your problems and help you overcome the challenges no matter how busy they are. True friends are also the ones who always try to lift you up rather than drag you down.

Build a shelter against a rainy day by the life you live

 Life is a series of sunny days and rainy days. To overcome the storms of life, you need to build a shelter for yourself. That shelter is not really about the material things but about a certain kind of person you will become such as the values and character traits you want to develop, self-discipline & self-control, or a deep relationship with your family and friends. These possessions will help you overcome the rainy days of life.

A shelter of values and character

“Your character and your values are like vegetables that grow in the sunshine, which you can store away in the cellar of your soul. They will always there to feed on in the lean times, the rainy seasons of life.”

Building strong values and character helps us to make the right decisions to get through the tough times. As Walt Disney’s brother and Roy O. Disney once said: “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” Some examples of values and character traits that boost us against the stormy days in life are integrity, a strong work ethic, and persistence.

A shelter of self-discipline

 Discipline is doing what you know needs to be done, even though you don’t want to. For example, waking early in the morning, doing exercise regularly, or reading books everyday are the things you know that they are good for you, but you are too lazy to do them regularly.

As Lou Holtz once said: “ Without self-discipline, success is impossible, period.” Self-discipline is a bridge between where you are now and where you want to go in the future.

A shelter of faith

 “Build your knowledge through good books. Have the discipline to take care of your health. Above all, develop faith and patience.”

A shelter of friends

 “We all need a shelter of people who will be close to us and available to us throughout our lives, in both the good times and the tough times.”

We can’t deny the importance of friends in our lives. Friends are the ones who are not only with us in the good times, but they also care & share with us the difficulties in life. And a deep friendship is a good shelter to help us overcome the rainy days in life.

 A shelter of family

 Life is tough. And home is the place where we can return after the tired days and then feel relaxed and have the inner peace. No matter where we live, family is always there to care and support us and it is the strong shelter for us against the tough times.

“Build a shelter against a rainy day by the life you live, and you never have to fear the storms of tomorrow.”

Pray for guidance and counsel, and give thanks for your blessings each day

An attitude of gratitude

 “Gratitude is a key to happiness. Grateful people are happy people. They learn to look for pleasure in simple blessings. They find something to be grateful for even when things don’t go their way. They focus on what they have instead of what they want.”

Count your blessings

 Counting your blessings can be practiced through some ways below:

  •  Keep a gratitude journal
  • Practice saying thank you and mean it
  • Send thank-you notes
  • Use gratitude and praise to build people up

Besides, I highly recommend The Magic book by Rhonda Byrne if you need a guidance to practice gratitude every day. Through 28-day practices, you will see how magical life can be if you express your gratitude for every single thing happening in life.

Based on 7 principles given to John Wooden by his father, this inspirational book will encourage, challenge, and motivate readers to build these principles into their own lives.

Why do you live?

Why do I climb up, knowing I will climb back down?
Why do I try, knowing I might fail?
Why do I pursue my dream, knowing it might never come true?
And why do I live, knowing I will die?

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I believe that the last question is worth for everyone to ask themselves. Have you ever asked yourself a question like that and find out your own answer? Have you ever spent your time to look into inside and think about the purpose why you came to this Earth? Have you ever thought that you are the special one in life?

For me, everyone was born to bring a special meaning to this world. They were born not just to be alive and then die. They came to this Earth to create beautiful things and make the world a better place. You can be a good doctor to treat many people, you can be a teacher with a great lover of spreading knowledge and inspiring children to be the best, you can be a leader to contribute to the development of the country’s economy, or simply you can be a cleanup worker to make streets in your city cleaner. Whatever you do in your life, you should know the meaning of things you are doing, the value you create to your life, who you are and how you want to live your life.

Why?

Why should you know those things?

Because YOU, to be here in this world, had to make an effort that somehow you have not known before. With regard to biology, if ejaculation occurs during sex, millions of sperms are released into the vagina of the woman. Actually, the way to find an egg is a very long distance. Therefore, it requires hard working and determination to achieve the goal. In that long way, a half of them do not know where they go, many of them give up because of difficulties, and just a few of sperms who swim inexhaustibly can overcome all the challenges to find the egg. However, the egg accepts only one sperm, that means even you try your best, you also need some luck to become the winner. As you can see, your attendance in life has never been so easy. 😀

Sometimes the pace of life is too fast for us to have time to look inside. We are too materialistic to know who we are. It is easy for us to give up on the way to dream. Some people suicide and forget how they tried their best to be present in life. Some people are just alive. So let spend your time to know who you are and what your mission in life is. Just by that way, you will be strong enough to overcome the difficulties in life and see how beautiful life is. Naturally, we were born and all will die. And that is one of the single best inventions of life. We are like the passengers in some living decades. So why don’t we make that journey meaningful and special?

Do you know which makes the Dalai Lama surprised most about humanity?
The Dalai Lama answered:
“Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived”.

I believe that live is a verb, so let it be a verb. 🙂

Bucket list :)

What is a Bucket List?

A term of “Bucket List” is described as a list of all the goals you want to achieve, the dreams you want to pursue, and the life experience that you want to experience in your life.

Here is my bucket list including the things I want to do in my life:

  1. Climb a mountain (Fansipan Mount., June 2013)

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2. Travel alone (Europe Trip in 2 weeks, September 2015)

It was the first time I travelled as a solo traveller. The trip lasted for about 2 weeks in 4 different countries in the EU. Thanks for the experiences I gained from that trip. 🙂

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3. Go on a road trip (Highway 1, California with my bestie in December 2015)

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4. Go camping by the beach (Mui Doi, January 2014)

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5. Sleep in the mountain (Fansipan, June 2013)

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6. Speak English fluently 

7. Try eating durian 

8. Practice Yoga 

9. Live in another country for at least 6 months (London, from September 9th, 2014 to December 22nd, 2015)

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10. Take part in volunteer activities in a remote village (Daklak, Vietnam; December 2013)

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11. Learn how to swim 

12. Go stargazing (Fansipan, June 2013)

13. Buy a camera by myself and capture some moments in life 

14. Learn how to make a cake for a special one

15. Get drunk 

16. Watch the sunrise 

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17. Watch the sunset on the beach (Santorini Island, September 2015)

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18. Donate blood 🙂 (5 times)

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19. Have my own personal blog or website 

http://www.oanhnguyen.me

20. Have at least a true best friend 

21. Take a dance class (2013)

22. Send a postcard to a friend (May 2015)

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23. Walk on a street with a lot of yellow leaves in autumn (London)

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24. Buy flowers for myself 

25. Live in another city (Saigon)

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26. Write a book

27. Visit the North-West Region of Vietnam (June 2013)

28. Ride a motorbike in a long-distance road by myself (Ha Giang to Lao Cai, June 2013)

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29. Have a small library in my little house

30. Travel around the city by cyclo

31. Wander around the city overnight (Saigon, July 2013)

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32. Give Mom & Dad a small present on my birthday as a way to say thanks to them. (April 2013)

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33. Go for a pull on the river (Punt on the river Cam, Cambridge in April 2015)

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34. Go on a picnic with my boyfriend/husband

35. Walk on a rainy day 

36. Walk on a snowy day

37. Visit Thailand (Bangkok, Chiang Mai)

38. Visit Japan (Tokyo and Kyoto)

39. Visit New York

40. Visit San Francisco (December 2015)

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41. Visit Grand Canyon

42. Visit Paris (September 2015)

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43. Visit Amsterdam (September 2015)

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44. Visit Venice (September 2015)

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45. Visit Santorini (September 2015)

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46. Have a coffee early in the morning with my friends 🙂

47. Have at least one foreign friend 

48. Travel with Mom & Dad and afford the traveling costs 😉

49. Learn how to drive a car 

50. Do public speaking

51. Go for a concert (Maroon 5, May 2015)

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52. Practice meditation 

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53. Pursue my passion

54. Start my own business

55. Walk/Dance in the rain

56. See the Northern Lights

57. Have a little garden in my house

58. Pack my bags and set off for a random location

59. Create my dream house 🙂

60. Live through four seasons of the year (London) ❤

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61. Conquer my fear & get out of my comfort zone 

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62. Be thankful everyday 

63. Learn how to make handicraft

64. Go skydiving

65. Go scuba diving

66. Visit Bhutan

67. Have a small coffee shop

68. Build a small bridge or road in a poor village in Vietnam

69. Go on a road trip through Vietnam with my best friends

70. Live in a countryside for at least one week

71. Be a good mother ❤

72. Travel somewhere with my bf

73. Have a party overnight with my best friends

74. Plant a tree

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75. Run a Half/Full Marathon (HCMC Marathon 01.2019)

76. Attend Yi Peng festival in Chiang Mai, Thailand (Nov 2017)

77. Get a tattoo

78. Take one foreign friend to explore Vietnamese culture

79. Visit a vineyard and see how to make wine

80. Send a birthday present to someone and make them feel surprised 

81. Give myself a small gift on my birthday 

82. Ride a bicycle around the city

83. Set up a charity to help Vietnamese children in poor regions

84. Kiss under the rain 😉

85. Draw on something lol 

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86. Have a collection of 4 points in Vietnam

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And:

LIVE EVERY DAY WITH PEACE ❤

The Wheel of Life: How to keep life balanced. :)

With the fast-changing pace of life nowadays, we tend to race through our lives without pausing to consider who we really want to be or where we really want to go. In order to meet the relentless demands, it’s easy to put all one’s energy in a specific area but forget the other important ones; therefore, it makes our lives off-balance. In fact, each area plays an important role in our lives; hence, the balance of life is needed to be considered.

What is the Wheel of Life?

The Wheel of Life is described as a wheel comprising of different categories of life, including Health, Career, Relationships, Finance, Personal Growth, or Social Activities.

 

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Figure 1: An example of the Wheel of Life. 

The Wheel of Life is a perfect tool to help us have a look at how we spend our time  and energy on each area of life clearly. By using this tool, it enables you to reflect and gain some insights into the balance of life and how content you feel in different areas. With this self-refection, not only does it help you to understand why your Wheel of Life looks the way it does but is also enables you to adjust your time and energy in order to have the Wheel of Life you want.

Create your Wheel of Life 

Spend some time to draw your own Wheel of Life. Normally, some important categories in life are Health, Career, Finance, Relationships, Personal Development, Fun & Creation, or Spirituality. However, you can choose any area which is the most important for you to create your own Wheel of Life.

Self-reflection 

After creating your Wheel of Life, rank the levels of satisfaction you feel in each category by answering this question:

From a scale of 1 to 10, how do you feel satisfied about your Health? your Relationships? your Career? your Personal Development? 

(1: feel dissatisfied,  10: feel satisfied)

By answering those questions, you can see how your Wheel of Life looks like as well as the level of satisfaction you feel in different areas in your life.

Imagine your Wheel of Life looks like Figure 1, how can it move forward in a long run?

Through self-refection, you can now identify the gap between where you are now and where you wanna go in the future; and hence, it helps you to manage your time and energy effectively to achieve your goals and keep your life balanced.

How do I use the Wheel of Life for goal-settings and keep a balance in my life?

(in 2016)

Realizing the importance of many areas in my life, I am now trying to apply the Wheel of Life  in order to keep my life balanced and also use it as a tool for goal-setting and time management.

Personally, I choose these areas to create my own Wheel of Life: Health, Relationships, Finance, Career, Travel, Personal Development, and Contribution.

Health: including physical & mental health.

Physical Health 

  • Wake up early and go to bed early (5:30 am to 10:30 pm)
  • Drink enough water (and drink 1-2 glasses of water after waking up in the morning)
  • Eat on time and don’t skip breakfast
  • Work out at least 3 times per week ( I take a Yoga class 3 times a week)
  • Eat enough fruit and vegetable

Mental Health

  • Meditate 20 mins everyday
  • Visualize & be thankful everyday

Career

Try to gain more knowledge and skills in Life Coaching & HR. (Spend 1-2 hours per day on doing this).

Finance

Learn how to manage my money effectively

Relationships 

•   Be thankful for the important relationships I have in my life

•   Keep in touch with my beloved ones

Personal Development 

Learn something new and get out of my comfort zone:

  • Learn how to drive
  • Learn how to swim
  • Learn how to cook

Read books every day (30-45 mins/day)

Continue to improve my English skill

Travel

Visit at least 2 new places per year

Contribution 

Blood donation every year

Take part in some volunteer activities

 

In summary, the Wheel of Life is a perfect tool for both short-term and long-term goal-settings. At the end of every week, every month, or every year, spend some time to reflect yourself to identify the gap between where you are now and where you wanna go. By tracking your Wheel of Life regularly, you can find a whole lot easier to achieve a fulfilled and balanced life. Let’s make it happen! 🙂

 

What did Flappy Bird teach me?

Have you ever played Flappy Bird?

 Actually, I began to play Flappy Bird just because of its popularity.  Being a Vietnamese game which was  well-known all around the world, it stimulated my curiosity to play. And then I really enjoyed  and also had some valuable lessons from this game.

So, what did Flappy Bird teach me?

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 1. ” Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.”  (Steve Jobs)

 At the first time I played, I just got 1 or 2 scores and sometimes I couldn’t pass any pillars. It made me quite frustrated and I just wanted to cast it aside. But a day after, I played again and got a better score. It encouraged me to play better step by step and then I really enjoyed the game.  Now, I can get almost 150 scores. Not too bad. LOL.

Something seems to be difficult at the first time, but if you try your best to overcome, it will be a lot easier for you to pick things up. Actually, all good things take time and hard working. If I curse and exit the game after hitting the first pillar, my higher score will never soar. If I give up because of some challenges in life, I will never achieve my dream. No matter how many times  life hits you, drowns you or burns you until you could hardly move forward, as long as you still keep your faith, you will still have a reason to start again. The more you try, the more you can see how beautiful something is. So, keep trying 😀

 2. Keep calm and enjoy your life ^^

 To get a high score, you have to learn how to keep calm and focus on one thing at one moment. You know, Flappy Bird is not a game you can play half-heartedly. Only just a second you have a lapse of concentration, you will lose the game. No need to worry about the next challenge, no need to think about the things you are not doing at present, the only thing you can do is focusing on every moment of the game and enjoy it. Being happy and successful in life is similar. Just focus on the important things and enjoy them. Is it simple?!

3.  Be yourself 😀

In this game, you don’t have to compare to the results of the others. You just compared your new score to your old one and see how you have improved during this game. So is life, you don’t need to look at the other’s performance and follow it. You just need to make every single day of your life better. And as someone said: “The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday”, so be yourself, try your best and make your life better day by day. That’s all!

4.  Move or Die!

A bird always has to move. Whether it moves up or down, it always has to move forward. Albert Einstein said: “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving”.  This quote can apply not only for this game, but also for life. ^^